We all know that relationships, not to mention marriages are a marathon, not a sprint. That’s exactly why we should always try to think twice about the things we’re about to say or do. The reason for that is simply the fact that if you’re planning on spending the rest of your life with someone, you need to get along as much as you possibly can
Now, when we start dating someone, behaving nicely isn’t ever a problem. When we’re just getting to know someone we like, we are always trying to please them, we are always ready to compromise, etc. You see where I’m going with this right?
But, as time goes by, and we get used to being with someone and we can relax around them, we tend to let ourselves go a bit, and not just physically, but “mentally” too. I understand that fighting with the people we love is inevitable, but, you also have to keep in mind that there are some things that you should avoid saying at any cost. That’s why, in order to keep your relationship running smoothly, I will talk about the things you should never tell to your partner.
“I Told You So”
If you wanna be perceived as a toddler, sure, go ahead and say “I told you so” to your partner the next time you’re right about something. Not only that this is extremely childish, but it can also ruin your partner’s mood even more. That’s why next time you should skip saying this and try to be more compassionate.
“I Forbid You…”
It doesn’t matter what comes after these three words, if it isn’t addressed at your child, please, do not even think about saying that to your partner. Trying to tell the person you love that they can’t do something is downright silly. They’re grown people and you should treat them as such.
Have you ever told someone “calm down” and they listened to you? No? I thought so. I understand that saying “calm down” to someone upset is somewhat of a reflex, but, if you’re not able to come up with anything more useful at that moment, silence is probably the way to go
“You Always/You Never”
Accusing someone of doing something might seem like a good idea to you when you’re angry at them, but in reality, it isn’t. Maybe you’re even right about something, but you need to keep in mind that these words will probably make your partner get defensive, which doesn’t lead to a productive argument at all. So basically, you won’t accomplish anything useful.
“If you love me you’ll…”
Oh yes, the “good” old emotional manipulation… I really shouldn’t even talk about why this phrase is so unhealthy for your relationship, but just for the full disclosure, pressuring someone to do something you want is never a good idea. We’ll leave it at that.
“I don’t care”
Maybe you’re trying to get back at your partner and hurt them by saying this to them, or you’re even just being brutally honest, it doesn’t even honestly matter, saying this to your partner’s face is not only rude but very hurtful too. Once you stop caring about the person you “love”, and you admit this to them, it’s game over for you.
I know that you maybe aren’t in the mood for listening to your partner complain about how stressful their job is etc., but, even if you are, keep it to your self and don’t even think about saying “whatever” to them. It will lead only to a bigger fight which isn’t going to make your relationship stronger at all.