Health Psychology

Are You Being Emotionally Manipulated? Watch Out For These 6 Red Flags

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There comes a time in everyone’s life when we have to look ourselves in the mirror and admit that we’re being emotionally manipulated by someone. I know it’s hard, we’ve all been there, we all know just how hard that can be, especially when we’re being exploited by someone who is close to us.

The reason why this even happens in the first place is simply the fact that we become vulnerable. We become too attached to people, we let our guard down for a second hoping that this is one of those rare moments when you simply “click” with someone and you become friends or even something else for the rest of your life.

Sadly, this is when a lot of things go wrong. That person takes advantage of you, manipulates you and drains you emotionally, etc. Now, don’t get me wrong, developing a healthy relationship is incredible and has many perks, but, since you’re reading this article and you’re probably wondering is someone doing this to you too, stick around until the end of the article and find out.

You feel like you’re hanging out with emotional vampires

Even though this one sounds a little odd, I believe you know what I’m talking about. You know, those kinds of people that simply suck every last drop of energy and good mood from you? The reason why this is the case is simply that manipulators always need to be in the center of the attention. They need all eyes on them and they won’t stop until they get everything they want.

Their main strategy is telling you stories about how bad they’re currently feeling, whether it’s their job making them sad or stressful, or it’s their family, it doesn’t really matter. The only thing that matters is that they get you involved in their problems, and they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you there as long as it benefits them.

Me, me, and only me

Just like I stated in the previous paragraph, manipulators are is most cases extremely selfish and selfcentered people. Basically, it’s all about them. Your stories don’t matter, your problems are irrelevant, basically, your whole purpose is to listen to everything they have to say, and then if they have any use of you, they might not throw you away like a piece of garbage. I know, this sounds very harsh, but that’s just the way things are, so it’s better that you’re prepared.

You feel unstable around them

Are you scared to express your opinion, are you nervous every time you’re around them, regardless of what you’re doing. If this sounds familiar, you’re probably dealing with a manipulator who’s trying to control your every action and your every word. Not only this, but it’s also not uncommon that people who are dealing with this kind of “torture” tend to bottle up their feelings, which can eventually lead to a nervous breakdown.

They aren’t afraid to get aggressive

Not only that these kinds of people cripple their “friends” emotionally, but if they feel that a little bit of physical intimidation will do the trick, they’re not afraid to get their hands dirty. If you feel that something like this could happen to you too, run away from them. It doesn’t even have to come to physical violence, if you feel like they’re getting aggressive verbally in order to get something they want, that should be enough for you to get away from them.

They always bring up your insecurities

It doesn’t matter if they’re being playful and they’re teasing you, or they’re straight up trying to insult you, emotional manipulators always tend to bring up the things you’re most insecure about. If you’re dealing with someone who knows absolutely no boundaries, they might even remind you on a daily basis how lucky you are just to be with them when they’re so perfect and you have so many flaws.

You and your feeling don’t matter

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Imagine this situation, you’re preparing a delicious meal for hours and it’s finally ready. You walk up the stairs to tell your special other that the dinner is ready, and they start yelling at you, telling you that you’re inconsiderate and that they’re not yet ready to go downstairs. If this sounds familiar to you, that’s a clear indicator that you’re dealing with a manipulator who cares only about himself and his feeling